Contend Earnestly: Mr. Mom and Sarah Palin

Tuesday, October 07, 2008

Mr. Mom and Sarah Palin

I recently put in my Facebook status update the following:

Seth wonders why so many conservatives are going to vote for McCain/Palin when this will take a new mother out of the home into one of the most demanding jobs around.

I was just making an observation and people went crazy. Which is alright, and I love discussing issues with people, as long as they don't get mad or angry. I don't think anyone did in this quick discussion, but I figured that since I got 31 comments on a status update that this must be hitting people as important. What I thought I would do is give some posts on the role of the man, and the role of the woman in a family situation. So, this will be the first post on the role of the man. I probably will follow up these series of posts with a post on singleness, as many people don't speak about this these days. Also, please note that there are exceptions to all these rules. Some of these would include a man who has been injured and can't work, is handicapped, illness, etc. The following are posts that would consider a healthy man and woman in a marriage. If you have questions as far as exceptions, please ask.

The Role of the Man in Marriage

The Man is the head of the house

This takes on many implications. Look to Eph 5:22-30

See the implications of this calling? Men love to snicker and point to the fact that they are the heads of the woman. But this is no ordinary calling. Eph 5:24 does tell us that the men are literally the heads of the household in marriage, being the fact that the woman is subject to the man. Genesis 3 says that part of the curse was that it was now going to be difficult for woman to deal with this, but the fact is, the man is the head. We will spend more time speaking of this in the posts regarding the role of the woman in marriage.

But look at this difficulty with this responsibility.

First. You are to be ready to die to self for your wife. You are to love her so much that you would do anything for her, that God would allow. Finances are a struggle? Who gets the second job? Wife has a baby who comes home to aid her? Who was the head of the apostles? Christ. Who was the most humble among them, loved them most, served them most? Christ. So, whether physically or spiritually, the man is the one who will die for the sake of the wife, so that she might be protected in every way possible.

Second. Who is responsible for the wife’s faith? The husband. Eph 5:26,27. The focus on this part of Ephesians 5, is on Christ and what He did for the church. But we are to emulate this as husbands. We are in charge of the spiritual well being for the house and for our wives. We are not only the physical head of the marriage and house, but also the spiritual. We are to lead our wives in Bible study, we are to lead our wife in prayer, we are to lead our wife in actions and words with care and love for her love of Christ.

Third. The husband is to live out the second greatest commandment with his wife. He is to love her as himself. It isn't hard for a man to love himself. Man is condemned many times with pride, which is love of self. So, when we are told that we are to love our wife as ourselves this isn't hard to understand, it is just hard to work this out practically. Men really love themselves a lot, and we think very highly of ourselves. God states, that as we see ourselves, and love ourselves, we are to actually be humble and exchange that love for self, for the love of the wife, for the glory of God.

These are all amazing callings for the man, being that in Greek culture the women were not seen as anything important and could be used by the man in any way he pleased. Yet, God says, “Be subject to one another in the fear of Christ” in Eph 5:21. So, Paul is not some male chauvenist, he just the opposite. He calls for sacrificial love for someone who was looked at as property in his time. He said, she isn't property, she is your own flesh, now love and care for her as such.

Lastly, The Man is to be the breadwinner. This comes straight from the creation of Adam and then we find it again in the curse. The role wasn’t created in the curse, but we find that part of man’s curse was found in working in toil for the food for the house.
You will notice that in Genesis that the man is to be the one cultivating the ground, he is the keeper of the garden. When the curse happens then you see that the man is now going to find his work very difficult. This doesn't mean that men will now all have to be farmers, but the fact is that his work of trade will be very difficult. This is what is meant when God states, "Both thorns and thistles it shall grow for you" and " By the sweat of your face you will eat bread." The point is that the work of the man will be very difficult and not easy. The underlining understanding is that the man's curse was that his work would be very difficult. When we go through the woman's curse, you will notice it isn't the work of her hands that is difficult, but now it is the work of the home that becomes difficult in child bearing and trying to usurp the husband's authority.

The man is to be at work, he is to be working for the sake of his household. Paul tells Timothy:

But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever
1 Timothy 5:8

Also, you will notice that in Proverbs 31 where we find the most excellent wife, that she does do some work outside of the home, but notice that the husband is not at home with the kids, but he is where he should be, at work, and known at the city gate (Proverbs 31:23). The city gate was the place of decision making and rulership of the cities and this is where we find the man. His wife, allows him to hold a prominant role in the business market because his home is ran well by his perfect help mate.

Next post we will continue to see the man in the role at the church and then we will see our perfect example in Christ. After that we will look at the role of the woman in marriage and the role of the woman in the church. Please ask any questions that you might have.

Also, know that I love my wife more than anything, sometimes dangerously close to my love for Christ, and I would never degrade her or hold my position of authority to degrade her. We make decisions together, we pray together and we love Christ together. Sometimes when we go through these kinds of discussions, people for some reason take this as chauvanistic, but if you saw our marriage, you would see a deep love and respect and protection for my beautiful wife that is only found under the authority of my great God.


Anonymous said...


what caught my attention was a pollster's observation using a scientific means with electronic devices that show one's emotions when one of the candidate's hits on a subject they are sensitive too.

In the debate with Biden and Palin, when Palin addressed the "dead beat dad" and not taking personal responsibility for self and wife and children, which the devil in this society has turned around to a victim story, the electronic devices went straight up almost!

I believe if these politicians can connect with that emotion tonight and these next few weeks, possibly that person's ticket will win the White House.

Biblical Christianity is under assault! It has always been under assault from the moment the serpent assaulted our first mother in the Garden.

Somehow the devil has packaged this assault to mean, you and me, right and wrong, good and bad.

It's God and the devil, pure and simple.

God's answer to the victimization story is this little pithy saying:


We have a saying around here that "we get to start over again this morning" and "every morning"!

What does that mean?

Well it means that there are two laws at work in every human being, man, woman and child, no matter what culture they were born into and raised up in or living in now.

The one law will never be defeated, no matter how hard you try, no matter how often you fast and pray or work at cleaning it up or putting it down. That law is the law of sin and death.

The other Law will never be defeated, no matter how hard you try to keep it off your back.

That Law is the Law of the Spirit of Life in Jesus Christ. It is this Law that "sets us free" from the law of sin and death.

The only time the law of sin and death ceases to be in me is when I pass out this flesh into that new body Paul writes about here:::>

2Co 5:1 For we know that if the tent that is our earthly home is destroyed, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens.
2Co 5:2 For in this tent we groan, longing to put on our heavenly dwelling,
2Co 5:3 if indeed by putting it on we may not be found naked.
2Co 5:4 For while we are still in this tent, we groan, being burdened--not that we would be unclothed, but that we would be further clothed, so that what is mortal may be swallowed up by life.

By the Words of Life and by the Law of the Spirit of Life, I no longer have to submit to the victimization story of the law of sin and death.

Now, no man is my enemy. My enemy is clearly spelled out for me.

We war not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers of spiritual wickedness in high places.

I suggest that when the "Church" today, alive and living in this world system steps back and considers Paul's writing the Church we leave off warring against mankind and that law of sin and death and start warring correctly against the rulers and authorities in heavenly places:::>

Eph 3:8 To me, though I am the very least of all the saints, this grace was given, to preach to the Gentiles the unsearchable riches of Christ,
Eph 3:9 and to bring to light for everyone what is the plan of the mystery hidden for ages in God who created all things,
Eph 3:10 so that through the church the manifold wisdom of God might now be made known to the rulers and authorities in the heavenly places.
Eph 3:11 This was according to the eternal purpose that he has realized in Christ Jesus our Lord,
Eph 3:12 in whom we have boldness and access with confidence through our faith in him.

There is no victim story here.

Here is how Paul preached it and proclaimed it to King Agrippa:::>

Act 26:13 At midday, O king, I saw on the way a light from heaven, brighter than the sun, that shone around me and those who journeyed with me.
Act 26:14 And when we had all fallen to the ground, I heard a voice saying to me in the Hebrew language, 'Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting me? It is hard for you to kick against the goads.'
Act 26:15 And I said, 'Who are you, Lord?' And the Lord said, 'I am Jesus whom you are persecuting.
Act 26:16 But rise and stand upon your feet, for I have appeared to you for this purpose, to appoint you as a servant and witness to the things in which you have seen me and to those in which I will appear to you,
Act 26:17 delivering you from your people and from the Gentiles--to whom I am sending you
Act 26:18 to open their eyes, so that they may turn from darkness to light and from the power of Satan to God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins and a place among those who are sanctified by faith in me.'
Act 26:19 "Therefore, O King Agrippa, I was not disobedient to the heavenly vision,

The Law of the Spirit of Life in Christ Jesus sets us free from the law of sin and death, it does not destroy it.

God will destroy this world and the god of this world shortly.

I will not be destroy, my sin nature will be! I will live forever. I am the Bride. I am the Wife of the Lamb.

The question for those reading this is:::>

Are you? :)

If you are then these words of Paul will have great meaning and purpose in your life today and every day from now on:::>

Act 20:32 And now I commend you to God and to the word of his grace, which is able to build you up and to give you the inheritance among all those who are sanctified.
Act 20:33 I coveted no one's silver or gold or apparel.
Act 20:34 You yourselves know that these hands ministered to my necessities and to those who were with me.
Act 20:35 In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, 'It is more blessed to give than to receive.'"



Anonymous said...

Fair dinkum - that's a bit off topic...

... whilst 'on topic' - well said Seth... can't wait to hear what you have to say bout women/wives.

Anonymous said...

To be perfectly honest no one has a clue how the Palin's will handle THEIR family responsibilities if Sarah makes it to the White House. People are commenting on things like, well she'll have to leave her family behind in Alaska. Why would she need to do THAT? Most if not all VPs live in the VP house close to the White House.

Then you might here another person say well, how can she properly care for her children if she's working? Well like alot of working mother s do in America every single day of the year. It wouldn't surprise me if Sarah carried Trig in a baby bjorn on her chest while doing SOME of her duties. She has said that her husband AND herself are responsible for raising THEIR children. However it works for them is THEIR business. They're happy and have a strong Christian marriage.

I think this election we don't have the choice we used to have. Which is, vote for the one most qualified or who you agree with on the issues. The question now is this: Who will do more harm than good!?!

Then choose the other guy.

Although having Palin on the ticket bringing her conservative biblical values to the white House makes me a feel a bit better about the GOP ticket meanwhile nothing has made me feel positive about the Dem ticket. This will be the first time in my life I've ever cast a vote for a Republican candidate.

May God help us in November.


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